Your grief is a testament to your deep love and enjoyment of the life you and your wife created. I’m so very sorry for your loss. Please know how much your wisdom and compassion matter to those of us who read your posts.
This is such a beautiful memory in honor of your wife. I listened and remembered the beauty of that song. You give us so much comfort since you began this site. May you be comforted and find solace in her memory and of how much she loved you. I understand how painful it is to lose a life partner because I watched the struggle my father had when my mother passed away. Take good care Dan. With best wishes.
You have given me and so many others so much. Your sane discernment of events has often comforted me. May you receive the same comfort in this hard time where joy is a challenge. Thank you Dan.
I too remember the first date with my dear wife who I lost to cancer 34 years ago at the age of 44. It was 1960 and the song was "Love letters in the Sand". by Pat Boone.
Thanyou for your comment. It has been very hard for me and the kids who are adults now and one son has presented me with two grandaughters, one of which has beautiful blue eyes like her grandmother.
Yes, I believe memories are a key source of joy and peace as we age. We are so blessed and fortunate to have had these experiences, and to have the health to remember the wonderful details and moments ~~ and even the feelings we experienced! Such memories were the key to my surviving grief after my dear husband passed 8 years ago. I thought the grief would consume me. Turning my attention to gratitude ~~ thankfulness for all the wonderful sweet memories and moments in our years together is what allowed the dark days to lift; and I could see and feel the sunshine again as long as I wrapped them in these memories. I would not have had the grief if I had not had the memories; and would not have had the memories if I had not had the moments; and would not have had the moments if I had not loved so deeply, so dearly, such a wonderful man. That's just pure gratitude!
Lovely and lush... and oh, the memories! Funny that, how music can bring back an evening in glorious and warm detail just from hearing a few bars of the intro play. My personal memory is of Bobby Vinton's version (a pale imitation of Tony Bennett, but it's what I've got.) I remember slow dancing around the National Guard Armory, which is where the dances were held every Saturday night (also Fridays during the summer). It was dimly lit - you could see, but most of the light was above us - and the music filled the large room. My boyfriend at the time and I clung together as though we'd spin right off the earth into the stars if we didn't, and the music directed our feet - we were lost in it. It was endless, and ended all too soon.
I recognize your pain and sense of loss. Losing a limb could be no more painful. And yet, the memories, the golden memories are always with us. They allow us to go back, briefly, and feel the warmth and fulfillment once again. Thank you.
Our hearts are with you as you mourn. May her memory be a blessing and comfort.
Your grief is a testament to your deep love and enjoyment of the life you and your wife created. I’m so very sorry for your loss. Please know how much your wisdom and compassion matter to those of us who read your posts.
A great memory!🥰
Always a favorite, for the memories. Thank you and my respects.
Dear Dan, Thank You for sharing your heart felt "Reason to Smile"!
This is a lovely tribute to your beloved wife. I'm a bid fan of long marriages, great music, and precious memories! And a big fan of YOU!!!
Thanks Dan. These two all time favorites nailed one of my favorite songs. And BTW, I love you too. One foot in front of the other. ❤️
This is such a beautiful memory in honor of your wife. I listened and remembered the beauty of that song. You give us so much comfort since you began this site. May you be comforted and find solace in her memory and of how much she loved you. I understand how painful it is to lose a life partner because I watched the struggle my father had when my mother passed away. Take good care Dan. With best wishes.
Thank you for sharing this story. ❤️
You have given me and so many others so much. Your sane discernment of events has often comforted me. May you receive the same comfort in this hard time where joy is a challenge. Thank you Dan.
So beautiful...
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I too remember the first date with my dear wife who I lost to cancer 34 years ago at the age of 44. It was 1960 and the song was "Love letters in the Sand". by Pat Boone.
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Thanyou for your comment. It has been very hard for me and the kids who are adults now and one son has presented me with two grandaughters, one of which has beautiful blue eyes like her grandmother.
Yes, I believe memories are a key source of joy and peace as we age. We are so blessed and fortunate to have had these experiences, and to have the health to remember the wonderful details and moments ~~ and even the feelings we experienced! Such memories were the key to my surviving grief after my dear husband passed 8 years ago. I thought the grief would consume me. Turning my attention to gratitude ~~ thankfulness for all the wonderful sweet memories and moments in our years together is what allowed the dark days to lift; and I could see and feel the sunshine again as long as I wrapped them in these memories. I would not have had the grief if I had not had the memories; and would not have had the memories if I had not had the moments; and would not have had the moments if I had not loved so deeply, so dearly, such a wonderful man. That's just pure gratitude!
Lovely and lush... and oh, the memories! Funny that, how music can bring back an evening in glorious and warm detail just from hearing a few bars of the intro play. My personal memory is of Bobby Vinton's version (a pale imitation of Tony Bennett, but it's what I've got.) I remember slow dancing around the National Guard Armory, which is where the dances were held every Saturday night (also Fridays during the summer). It was dimly lit - you could see, but most of the light was above us - and the music filled the large room. My boyfriend at the time and I clung together as though we'd spin right off the earth into the stars if we didn't, and the music directed our feet - we were lost in it. It was endless, and ended all too soon.
I recognize your pain and sense of loss. Losing a limb could be no more painful. And yet, the memories, the golden memories are always with us. They allow us to go back, briefly, and feel the warmth and fulfillment once again. Thank you.
Beautiful, bittersweet
Life endures
Through our tears.
❤️❤️❤️ 💔 😢 ❤️❤️❤️